Some of us take things personally and get hurt by every little thing. We don’t give others the benefit of the doubt; this can cause great harm to us in the long run.
It’s easy to interpret words, whether they be written or spoken, in an incorrect way. An inaccurate interpretation of a statement, remark or a word can have serious consequences. A few sarcastic words said in a healthy spirit may be taken as derogatory and mean. A comment passed in good humor may lead to an argument rather than bringing a few good laughs (which was its primary intention). The power of words can never be underestimated — it can turn a good time into a fight, friends into foes, and fun and laughter into pain and hurt feelings.
That’s why it’s good to prepare ourselves in advance and take charge of the lenses and filters through which we see our conversations and interactions.
It’s wise to do some self-analysis and figure out the nature of our interpretations. A few questions to consider are: What’s my immediate interpretation of someone else’s words and intentions? Do I get offended easily? Am I assuming good intentions or am I quick at jumping into irrational conclusions?
The more clouded our lenses are and the more skewed our interpretations of other people’s words are, the higher are our chances of feeling hurt and wronged. It’s imperative that we choose the right interpretations and assume good intentions so that we have the right responses and not react impulsively.
It’s best to come to the right conclusions whether it be from someone’s words, actions or behaviors, or from external circumstances. This will keep us grounded and we’ll be less susceptible to experiencing feelings of hurt and harm. Basically, we will be less upset overall.