how to define your ideal self

how to define your ideal self

It’s so important to have an image in our mind about how our ideal, higher self is and what kind of traits he/she possesses. If we have a blueprint of what kind of person we want to be in say 3 years, only then we’ll have a clear idea about the goals that we need to accomplish.

Oftentimes we have these mental blocks due to which we feel we cannot be our ideal best self. Because of these blocks, we either don’t set goals in the first place, and if we do, we end up setting vague goals. As Robin Sharma says, “Vague goals lead to vague results” and when they’re not accomplished, we feel frustrated.

A good thing to do is sit in a relaxed position, breathe deeply and close your eyes. Do a visualization exercise and imagine yourself after a certain time frame (can be 3 or 5 years, depending on how long you think it will take you to be your ideal self!).

Make a mental image of the future You:

  • What’s your lifestyle like?
  • Where do you live?
  • What does your home look like?
  • What kind of clothes do you wear?
  • How are your finances?
  • What is your romantic life like?
  • What kind of friendships and relationships do you have?
  • What’s your body type?
  • How do you spend your time?
  • What gives you a source of fulfillment?
  • What does your work day look like?
  • What’s your workspace like?
  • What are the values you stand by?
  • What do you do for fun?

Some qualities, traits, and images will come to your mind. Make a mental note of all of them. Don’t worry if your imagery is not the best, just do it as best as you can!

Keep repeating this practice and you will attain better clarity about your ideal self. It’s worth noting that your ideal self may change over time, but it will get clearer and more congruent to your own dreams and as you adopt new positive beliefs. 

A key factor is that when you think of your ideal self, let it bring positivity and make you feel good. Borrow emotions from the images and have a nostalgia for the future. You should never feel pressured or overwhelmed, just go with the flow. Think of your ideal, higher self as a beacon of light that will help you guide in the journey ahead.