In his New York Times bestselling book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, Mark Manson talks about how you can master the delicate art of not caring by directing your energy, attention, and care to things that matter the most to you — things that you truly desire and find genuinely fulfilling. This requires you to take certain important actions:
- Developing self-awareness about problems and issues that you are facing in life. You must figure out the source of something that’s bothering you, why it matters and whether you should care.
- Challenging your beliefs and assumptions, and seriously considering the possibility of being wrong.
- Becoming cognizant of good values and establishing them in your life — these must be immediate, realistic, and socially constructive.
The pursuit of living a life without pain, discomfort and worries is futile. It’s simply not possible. However, you can always choose the route of meaningful suffering in the pursuit of something that you truly care about. This brings happiness, joy and fulfillment, not only when you attain success, but in your everyday actions as well.