the inner drive: understanding your sexual essence
"Regardless of gender or sexual orientation, if you want to experience deep spiritual and sexual fulfillment, you must know your natural sexual essence—masculine, feminine, or balanced—and live true to it. You can’t deny your true sexual essence by covering it with layers of false energy for years, and then expect to know your authentic purpose and be free in the flow of love.”
— David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man
Our sexual essence goes beyond the physical. It's the core of our desires, the compass that guides us towards fulfillment. It whispers a truth about ourselves, a truth that can remain hidden until we pay close attention.
For those with a more masculine sexual essence, the world is a battlefield. They may find joy in nurturing a family, but a deeper hunger gnaws at them – the call to a mission. This mission remains undefined at first, a flickering flame in the darkness. Building a business, creating art, or championing a cause – these are all expressions of a yearning to leave a mark, to conquer a personal Everest. Until this purpose is discovered and pursued with unwavering commitment, a hollowness will echo within, regardless of a loving family. Intimacy and familial bonds are strong threads, but they alone cannot weave a tapestry of complete satisfaction. Imagine a warrior, muscles honed but with nowhere to fight – that's the unfulfilled masculine essence.
The feminine essence, on the other hand, thrives on connection. Professional accolades can be impressive, but true fulfillment blossoms in the fertile ground of love. Whether it's the passionate romance of a novel, the tear-jerking drama of a soap opera, or heartfelt conversations with friends, the feminine essence seeks stories that resonate with the language of love. It craves connection, the dance of hearts intertwined. Without love flowing freely – in a nurturing family, a passionate partnership, or a supportive community – the feminine essence withers, its vibrant potential left unfulfilled.
This is not about a rigid binary, but a spectrum. We all possess elements of both masculine and feminine energy. However, understanding the dominant theme within our sexual essence can be transformative. The man who yearns for a mission might find his calling not in a 9 to 5 corporate job but in a social justice movement. The woman who thrives on love might discover a powerful expression of it in mentoring young girls.
The key lies in acknowledging this inner compass. For the masculine essence, it's about asking, "What ignites a fire in my soul? What battle cries for my attention?" For the feminine essence, the question becomes, "Where does my heart yearn to connect? In what form can I express and receive love most authentically?"
By understanding our sexual essence, we unlock a deeper level of self-awareness, allowing us to navigate the complexities of life with greater clarity and purpose. It's not about sacrificing love or mission, but about finding ways to integrate both into a full and vibrant existence. When we align our actions with the desires whispered by our sexual essence, we embark on a journey towards a truly fulfilling life.
